Questions · Asking and helping

How can I help a family who lost their home in a fire?

Ask what they need before you give, and start with the basics: a place to stay, clothes, food, and gift cards. When crowds asked John the Baptist what they should do, he said, "He that hath two coats, let him impart to him that hath none." After a fire, sharing what you have is the first help.

A house fire can take everything in an hour. Clothes, beds, photos, documents, toys. The family may be standing on the sidewalk in pajamas, in shock, with nowhere to sleep that night. And in the weeks after come insurance calls, paperwork and the grief of losing things that can never be replaced.

There is a short, plain answer in the Gospels about what to do when someone has nothing.

Two coats

Before Jesus began teaching, a man named John, called John the Baptist, preached by the Jordan River and baptized people. Crowds came to hear him. They asked him a simple question: what should we do?

The Gospel of Luke, one of the four accounts of Jesus's life, records his answer.

He answereth and saith unto them, He that hath two coats, let him impart to him that hath none; and he that hath meat, let him do likewise.

Luke 3:11 · King James Version
The original Greek

ἀποκριθεὶς δὲ ἔλεγεν αὐτοῖς· Ὁ ἔχων δύο χιτῶνας μεταδότω τῷ μὴ ἔχοντι, καὶ ὁ ἔχων βρώματα ὁμοίως ποιείτω.

Found in Codex Vaticanus (about AD 325), Codex Sinaiticus (about AD 350).

If you have two coats, give one to someone with none. If you have food, share it. No long speech. Just share what you have.

Ways to help

Ask what they need first. Families often get piles of the wrong things. A quick question saves them from sorting donations they cannot store.

Help with a place to stay. A spare room, a guest house, or help finding a short-term rental while they figure out what is next.

Give gift cards or money. They let the family buy exactly the right sizes and items. Grocery, clothing and gas cards all help.

Bring essentials for the first days. Phone chargers, toiletries, medicine pickups, a change of clothes, and something comforting for the children.

Help with paperwork. Replacing ID, birth certificates and insurance forms is exhausting. Offer to make calls or sit with them.

Watch the kids and pets. Parents have to meet adjusters and contractors. Children need a calm place to be.

Organize the help. A meal schedule or a simple list of needs keeps help coming without overwhelming the family.

Remember the losses that cannot be replaced. If you have photos of them, print copies. That kind of gift can mean more than anything else.

Stay for the long road. Rebuilding can take a year or more. Keep checking in.

Share your coat

John's answer was simple on purpose. When someone has lost everything, you do not need a plan. You need to share what you have. A coat, a meal, a bed for the night. That is where help begins.

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